*disclaimer, i wrote this on a pretty bad day, and i had a lot of stuff on my mind that's passed for now. It's potentially a pretty down read, buuut regardless, enjoy..
So, extroversion. It's a weird thing. Commonly mistaken for self confidence or the ability to public speak or for being loud. But no.. Extroversion (for anyone not in the know, bc tbh it wasn't that long ago that I realised my assumptions about its definition were very very wrong..), means being energised by spending time with others, as opposed to introverts energised by time spent alone. Drained by the time spent alone, energised by social activity, woo! I am an extrovert, and gosh it's so great being and extrovert lololol what an exciting life!! How confident and joyous you must be!!1! It's commonly assumed that's extroverts are constantly feeling gr8 and having a wild time, but noooo. I am so extroverted to the point where I can't spend a day on my own without going completely insane. Don't get me wrong, I like being on my own. Nothing like a bit of me time spent painting and reading etc. but after a while it drains me, and I need need need to see people to perk up and feel like I exist again! It's not about validation, simply a chemical response to another's company. And yeah, this sucks.
So, extroversion. It's a weird thing. Commonly mistaken for self confidence or the ability to public speak or for being loud. But no.. Extroversion (for anyone not in the know, bc tbh it wasn't that long ago that I realised my assumptions about its definition were very very wrong..), means being energised by spending time with others, as opposed to introverts energised by time spent alone. Drained by the time spent alone, energised by social activity, woo! I am an extrovert, and gosh it's so great being and extrovert lololol what an exciting life!! How confident and joyous you must be!!1! It's commonly assumed that's extroverts are constantly feeling gr8 and having a wild time, but noooo. I am so extroverted to the point where I can't spend a day on my own without going completely insane. Don't get me wrong, I like being on my own. Nothing like a bit of me time spent painting and reading etc. but after a while it drains me, and I need need need to see people to perk up and feel like I exist again! It's not about validation, simply a chemical response to another's company. And yeah, this sucks.
Exam season (i.e now) is not a good time for me. Never ever a good time. Bc everyone is studying or at work, and I am not (promise it's bc I always have super early exams, not bc I'm a bad student..), and therefore I am left to my own devices for a while. This constant exposure to only my own company is amplified when in a foreign country, away from friends and family and home comforts. After a few days by myself (it is Wednesday, and I last hung out with someone on Sunday) I really really start to lose it. Today I failed to wash or put on underwear, ate a box of Cheerios, six slices of peanut butter toast and two chocolate oranges, sat in my shower for an exciting change of scenery for a few hours, watched an entire series of a show about british university students (ah the irony). I'm sure for some people that may sound like a dream, a day of peace with no one to bother you, but no. No no. This is a nightmare. There is a humour to this depending on how you look at it, but also a greater problem.. So let's briefly get sad for a moment and discuss this;
People say that they'll be there for you, that when you really need it they'll help you out, get you what you need. But they don't. When it really comes down to it, a lot of people will flake and they fail and they aren't willing to do anything really. Even if they genuinly do care for you. They won't spare an hour to come by and see you, they won't go to the shop to make sure you have something to eat, they won't check up on you, or call, they won't do anything bc they don't see mental health as that serious. Bc if you wanted to do something you'd get up and do it. But it isn't like that. Granted, a lot of the time people probably just don't realise the seriousness of the situation: it just seems like a funny turn, or a moment of over dramatics, but no. Loneliness, sadness, emptiness- it's serious. We are so ready and able to help someone with a broken body, but not so eager with a broken mind (although that's a whole'nother issue)... I've had times where I have been completely distraught and destructive and in need of a friend, and even though I know they still love me, those closest to me haven't be there.
Last year during exam season I had another issue going on and in attempts to deal with it sat alone in a children's playground and balled my eyes out, and then stayed in my room for three days, drank only coconut water and didn't eat bc I was mentally imploding {god bless u lydia veltman 4 keeping me hydrated}. However, amidst the duties of revision, to others it's not a priority. And fair enough, their life is their life, and being the reason someone flunks an exam or misses out on something they wanted to do for ages is really shitty. The problem is, I would easily drop everything, an exam, a family event, a night out, if I knew someone needed me. I read a quote once along the lines of "that's the problem with people who mean what they say, they think everyone else does too". I'm definitely in that bracket. If i say I'm there for you, I really am. I don't blame other people for not being the same, everyone grows up with different priorities, but I was always taught that people, and their happiness and wellbeing come first. And to live like that alongside others who don't sucks. Nevertheless, to draw some good from all this sad talk, that's why you hold on to the ones who stick to their word. When the chips are down the people who care will show you, not just tell you. So care for them too.
Last year during exam season I had another issue going on and in attempts to deal with it sat alone in a children's playground and balled my eyes out, and then stayed in my room for three days, drank only coconut water and didn't eat bc I was mentally imploding {god bless u lydia veltman 4 keeping me hydrated}. However, amidst the duties of revision, to others it's not a priority. And fair enough, their life is their life, and being the reason someone flunks an exam or misses out on something they wanted to do for ages is really shitty. The problem is, I would easily drop everything, an exam, a family event, a night out, if I knew someone needed me. I read a quote once along the lines of "that's the problem with people who mean what they say, they think everyone else does too". I'm definitely in that bracket. If i say I'm there for you, I really am. I don't blame other people for not being the same, everyone grows up with different priorities, but I was always taught that people, and their happiness and wellbeing come first. And to live like that alongside others who don't sucks. Nevertheless, to draw some good from all this sad talk, that's why you hold on to the ones who stick to their word. When the chips are down the people who care will show you, not just tell you. So care for them too.
It's always days like these where this kind of talk comes out. I just go a bit off, inside. I never want anyone to mistake my sad ramblings for sadness.. The majority of the time I am blissfully happy, and life excites me. Even on days like this life excites me! I find positivity easy to exist in, but there is this tiny thing in the back of my mind that's just like.."rach, be sad". A little man slowly digging and chucking stuff out till I'm empty. And I do feel empty quite a bit. Half completely overwhelming joy and half.. Nothing? So yeah, extroversion, mental health.. it's weird. As is basically everything. Woah what a cool insightful point to finish on. I feel like there's more to write but in this state I don't think I'm up for it, so I'll finish up writing for the sake of my personal catharsis, and try to do my best at actually living the life I so ponderously write about. byeeeee *plunges into the abyss*.
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